I AM RE-POSTING THIS BLOG POST ) (WITH SOME MINOR EDITS) FROM OCTOBER 20th, 2013 BECAUSE IT IS STILL SO RELEVANT AND CAN INSPIRE OTHERS.
One of the most important, useful and practical healing tools I’ve learned in YOU University Coaching is the Love Letter.
Using love letters has been extremely helpful for me to get in touch with my feelings.....those that I carry around unexpressed and that float around in my insides like an untreated virus.
I've experienced uncomfortable feelings the past few days towards someone I love very much but has crossed time and again my healthy boundaries. Because of my difficulty in expressing uncomfortable feelings for fear of abandonment and confrontations, my old behavior has been to keep these bottled in and then obsess continuously about them, losing peace of mind.
This morning I did a love letter to process my anger towards this person. The feelings poured out: anger, fear, sadness, hurt....and then responsibility (mine) for creating the situation because I allowed it; then understanding, forgiveness and love!
What was magical to me about the whole process was how I became aware of my own part in the whole issue. How my old patterns of behavior, fears, guilt, wanting to feel needed and important, played a huge part in hindering my relationship with this person. It became clear to me that I need to learn to and practice saying NO, a "NO" that comes from love, instead of a YES that is tainted with fear that then transforms into resentment and anger.
I feel much better now because I released my feelings on paper. The purpose of the love letter is for my own benefit, to go within and become aware of what is really going on inside me and what I need to work on and heal.
Feel free to contact me if you're interested in learning about love letters.