By now, I am understanding we are all God's creation, created from love, as love, whole, perfect, in oneness with God and with each other. There is one holiness, divinity within us that we all share. This unity and Self is changeless and eternal. Not like the body. So, when I see someone as a body (personality, role, physical) I am attacking their true identity and seeing them as weak, impermanent, lacking and myself as well. What I believe I am I will see in another.
I practice seeing another vision with the spiritual eye, or Christ Vision. I look beyond the body (not with my physical eyes) and see the truth. As I do this consistently, I am healing their mind and my own. I am remembering for both of us what we truly are. I ask Spirit for help in this because of myself I can do nothing really. I am so programmed to see the body, judge it and attack. This seems to keep me separate (feelings of isolation and aloneness). In order to experience oneness, joy, peace of mind and truth, I need to see my brother as a pure and innocent being. Not a body.